Treasure had it allâ€”a husband who loved her, two beautiful â€œbonusâ€ children, a successful small business, rewarding volunteer work, and the icing on the cake, a glamorous life that took her all over the world.
But on a fateful Monday morning in 2009, her world turned upside down. She discovered that her loving husband â€¦ loved only his secret life. She learned that for the past twenty-four years her marriage was a lie.
Wounded and betrayed, Treasure fought to fi nd the strength to start over. From her darkest hours, she summoned the courage to look within and start the journey of transformation her soul craved. Her insufferable pain propelled her to a new life as an empowered woman living her authentic life by assuming full responsibility, practicing self-love and forgiveness. Most of all embracing a massive paradigm shift from victim to victor.
Holy Divorce: A Mindful and Spiritual Act of Self-Love is a diverse self-help handbook and novel inspired by licensed clinical counselor Barbara Kiaoâ€™s personal and professional work with her clients. She shares healthy ways to face your own fears, reach your highest self-understanding and fulfilment of your authentic selfâ€”and create true love and happiness.
Judging from the title, I thought it would be a sort of pro-divorce book. Instead, itâ€™s a story about Treasureâ€™s journey towards self-love, self-respect and self-compassion. Throughout each step of her journey, the author helps us self-reflect through some questions and become more aware of the things that we might need to change in us to reach better relationships not only with our partners but most importantly, with ourselves. In the words of the author: Â¨Itâ€™s only when we practice self-love that we can give and receive fearless love because where there is love, there is no fear, and where there is fear, there is no loveâ€•only obligation. I found the book very useful, not only for those married but also those, who like me, will marry some day. Â Itâ€™s an easy read and very revealing.
I finished the book in one go and much cherished the intimate journey that the heroine Treasure had to experience herself.
Never been married and currently single myself, I find the book relevant in every aspect, especially how one should learn â€œself love.â€ Unlike what Hollywood depicts about magical love, or â€œyou complete meâ€ said so romantically in â€œJerry Maguire,â€ in everyday life, one can only complete himself, heal himself by truly accepting and caring for himself. However deceptively simply, it is what the author tries to guide her readers to see.
To borrow another line from â€œJerry Maguire,â€ the author had me at the title.
AÂ thoughtful, educational and thinking read .. through pain and endurance, TreasureÂ found her strength and courage to live a life true to herself.
After reading about Treasure’s life trials I found myself constantly asking the question “Which emotional factor did I use to help me make this decision?” when thinking back to all that has happened in my life. Whether it be personal, family or work related, did I use my heart, my head or someone else’s feelings to make the choices that I’ve made?
I very much enjoyed the roller coaster of events that kept me thinking “what could possibly be next?” But most importantly it encourages me to know that after so many tribulations, this woman found courage to face her adversities head-on and to seek forgiveness from the right person…. herself!