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Honesty II

Dear Light Workers,

I’m sure after last month’s read on “honesty in recovery from codependence” you are looking forward to learn more about the process. So I won’t keep you waiting any longer, let us dive into the process of recovery and why understanding our emotions are so important.


The process of recovery is basically a journey of continual growth to larger perspectives, higher context in which to view our world and everything in it. You hear me always teaching the impor- tance of raising consciousness; it is a process of peeling away layers of denial to get to a deeper level of honesty.


The main focus of this month’s message is discernment in relationship to emotional honesty; therefore it is important for me to first talk about why emotions are important.


Feelings, emotions, are energy. So if emotions are energy: E-motion = Energy in motion. It is supposed to be in motion, meaning, it was meant to flow.



Emotions have a purpose, a very reason to be — even those emotions that feel uncomfortable. Fear is a warning; anger is for protection; tears are for cleansing and releasing. These are not negative emotional responses. We were taught to react negatively to them, that’s all. It is our reaction that is dysfunctional and negative, not the emotion.


Emotions have two vitally important purposes for us humans. Emotions are a form of communica- tion. Our feelings are one of the means by which we define ourselves. The integration of our intel- lect and our emotions determine how we relate to ourselves.


Emotional energy is not only supposed to be in motion, to flow, it is also the energy that gets us in motion. It is what drives us, what propels us forward through life. When emotional flow is blocked and suppressed it does not go away. Energy cannot simply disappear. It can transform but it cannot disappear.  That is a law of physics.

What does that mean in psychology and our life then? Emotional energy that is suppressed still drives us. It is what causes obsessive-compulsive behaviours, it is what drives addictions and other psychological disorders. Repressed emotional energy builds up pressure that has to be released … because most human beings are emotionally dammed.  Dammed up, blocked up.


The reason that it is so important to clear up relationship with our own emotions, to learn to be emotionally honest with ourselves is because emotions are such a powerful part of our being, such a vital and controlling influence in how we live our lives. The key to learning how to clear up that relationship and start to get some emotional clarity is learning how to have internal boundaries.


Setting internal boundaries within the mental, between our thoughts and emotions. We can start discerning and separating the shaming messages that are coming from the disease / critical parent voice from our own wisdom, knowledge and intelligence. It is necessary to learn to have a bound- ary within the emotional component of our being because there are two primary transformers from which emotional energy is generated. Our ego self and our true self (higher self); our ego was traumatised in childhood and programmed very dysfunctionally. The ego is the seat of the disease of codependence.



The key to healing our wounded souls is to get clear and honest in our emotional process.  Until we can get clear and honest with our human emotional responses — until we change the twisted, distorted, negative perspectives, thoughts and reactions to our human emotions that are a result of having been born into, and grow up in, a dysfunctional, emotionally repressive environment — we cannot get clearly in touch with the level of emotional energy that is Truth. We cannot get clearly in touch with and reconnected to our True Self.


So it is vital to start developing internal boundaries so that we can start discerning between the emotional messages that are being generated by the disease, by our wounded self, and the mes- sages that are coming from our higher self (higher intelligence) and to be genuinely honest.


Until next time, feel free to  give me your feedback; I would love to hear from you.


Namaste! Barbara’17]

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